I had a great, refreshing weekend. It was similar to a retreat. I felt the Lord breathe new life into me and considering all the opposition that has occurred since I've been back, I thought it would be good to look back at my notes and get a reminder. These are just rough notes, thoughts, quotes, etc., things to meditate on and in my opinion, good for parenting in general.
* Philippians 4:6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
* Don't place responsibility over relationship.
* God's compassion/mercy is new every morning we want to demonstrate that to our children.
* We also want to be quick to demonstrate brokenness and humility if we mess up.
* We want our children to know that they are fully loved and fully known (that they know, that we know, that they are full of it).
* Teach them at an early age to confess they're sins to God, so a relationship with the Holy Spirit will be established.
* Raise them up don't crush them down.
* Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. Psalm 127:1
* We can't lead by pushing them forward-- Isaiah 40:11
* Children want to hear the beating of our heart not the beating of our voice.
* Our children need to see us serve them and be willing to get dirty for them, just as Jesus came not to be served but to serve.
* Malachi 4:6 And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse. The Old Testament ends with a curse (self effort, the law). The New Test ends with Grace -- Revelation 22:21 The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you all. Amen. Grace is attractive, carrying the idea of outstretched arms, free to receive-costly to give.
When we live our lives according to self effort/law it never works. Let us live according to grace, outstretched and vulnerable, death to self.
* When anyone stays within the boundaries of which God has established, there is happiness and contentment.
* Train up a child in the way he should go... Train = to stimulate, cultivate a taste, develop an appetite.
* "Many wishing to be great have failed to be good". -CH Spurgeon
* Want to change a kid's values? Let them work hard at something.
* "The Love you liberate in your work, is the love you keep".
* Difficulty in our lives is to grow us up.
* Our passions must be guided by worth or what is worthy.
* And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge; And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness; And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity. For if these things be in you, and abound, they make you that ye shall neither be barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 2 Peter 1:5-8 --Notice the sequence: Faith 1st, Virtue or Character 2nd, Knowledge 3rd.
Virtue = maniless/womanliness, valor, excellence, reasoning, passion/motivation etc.
* "Let God bring to each man: a will to obey, a work to do, and a woman to love."
* Discipline without direction is drudgery.
* The Sermon we preach everyday (our lives) is what will impact our children the most.
* God's concept of family is like looking at a diamond.
* We the parents, are the first example of a Christian our children will ever see.
* We shouldn't be teaching something we ourselves are not practicing:
1Peter 5:3 Neither as being lords over God's heritage, but being ensamples to the flock.
* Let his word have free course in our lives. Continue to grow and change right along with our children.
* Teach children to search the scripture, think independently, have convictions but let convictions bow to the Word of God.
* 1Peter 3:15 But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear
* Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy child's eye. And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy child's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy child, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? Matthew 7:3-5 (Italicized words changed) So we should examine ourselves before correcting our children.
* Jesus is the great Redeemer.